“BROKEN HEART: STUDENT BRIDE AND THE HARSH REALITY OF A 10-YEAR LOVE”

Hi everyone, I need to share my heartbreaking story today to get advice from the community. My fiancé and I have been together for 10 years, and I thought our dream-like romance would have a beautiful ending. But perhaps life isn’t like a dream…

I’m 29 this year, and he’s 30. We had an adorable baby together in 2020. Right at that time, the Covid pandemic broke out, I lost my job, and our lease expired. Fortunately, my grandmother generously let our little family stay with her, almost like having our own apartment rent-free.

Back then, I suggested going back to school for a better future. He and my grandmother both supported this. He paid for my tuition, and my grandmother watched our baby so I could attend classes. I studied part-time and am about to graduate this semester after 4 years of hard work.

He has always been the financial pillar, with his salary increasing from $70,000 per year to $90,000 per year. He has saved quite a bit over the years. We had agreed to get married after I graduated and we bought a house together.

In recent months, we’ve been actively looking for a house and found one we both liked. But when meeting with the mortgage broker, he suddenly announced that ONLY HE would be on the mortgage and deed. He said I would have nothing to do with the house. 💔

I stayed quiet then, but after the meeting, I told him I thought WE were buying the house together and I would pay half the mortgage. He said I would still pay half the mortgage but my name wouldn’t be on any documents.

That’s when I realized this meant I would have no rights to the house, and he admitted it!!! He justified that since he saved 40% for the down payment, it’s “fair” that he has all rights to the house in case we break up.

I told him straight: if that’s what he wants, I won’t pay the mortgage. This isn’t an equal partnership, and if he wants his own place, fine, but I’m not paying for it.

He called me a “b*tch” and said he had paid for everything for the past few years, including my tuition. I responded that I stayed home to care for our child so we didn’t have to pay for daycare, which saved us money since I could only work part-time. He said he didn’t care and that I need to pay half because I had already agreed to it.

10 years of love, a child together, so many memories… only to discover the person I trusted most doesn’t trust me? 😭

Am I wrong for refusing to pay the mortgage on a house I’ll have no ownership rights to? What do you think? Has anyone experienced a similar situation?