AITAH for no longer wanting to deal with my biological father and step mother.
Long story alert!!!! Let’s go back to 2022, I (24F) decided i wanted to become a police officer. I was 21 then. I went to the academy and approximately the 12th week of academy, My Corporals told the class we would have 10 tickets for visitors. I initially invited my brothers, both of my biological parents, best friend, aunties and my grandmother before she passed away. Maybe around the 13th week, I had to drop from 10 tickets to 5. So I chose my parents, my two bothers and my best friend.
My dad felt as if my step mother should have been included in the five tickets because of the things she has done for me and my brothers as far as stuff for the house that me and my second oldest brother share. The things she has done was supposed to been done before they got married before anyway. So to me, it feels like entitlement to the ticket for my police graduation. So because i stood 10 toes down behind who i chose for my tickets. I decided to have a dinner after the graduation where everyone would be invited and it could still be a celebration.
Me and my father had an argument and he told me that he would not be attending my graduation if my step mother was not invited. I made arrangements that if someone in my academy class wouldn’t use all his tickets that he would let me have his last one and my step mom would have one. I guess that was not good enough for my dad. He felt as if my step mom should’ve been included in the 5 whether or not if i got the extra ticket or not. Graduation came and gone and he did not show. And yes, It hurt me alot, he missed an important milestone and he cant go back and fix it. I can say it has drawn a wedge between us. I used to be a daddy’s girl, OVERLY. I wasnt doing anything without my dad.
Fast for to 2025, The wedge has gotten worse. I dont ask my dad for anything, I dont expect anything, we could really go weeks without talking. Here it is May/June and I recently had a surgery and my dad felt he wasn’t included in that because i chose to let my mom take care of me instead of my stepmom who is actually a nurse. I do not have a relationship with neither him nor her now stemming from my graduation. He did call and check on me.. At some point during my surgery, my mom and my dad had a FULL come apart and my graduation came up. My dad made the statement to my mom that if he could go back and do it over, he would do it the same. That hurt me to find out after my surgery. So now im wondering am i the asshole for no longer wanting to deal with dad and stepmom.
