AITA for sending my roommate only 1/3rd of our monthly rent?
I(M21) moved in with my roommate(M23) last year. He is the older brother of my close friend who knew I was looking for a place so he told me his older brother is also looking for a roommate. I don’t have any formal agreements and I’m not on the lease. I have been sending my roommate half of the monthly rent and utilities for the last 8 months, always on time.
Me and my roommate share food for the most part, no one goes overboard but we are both fine with the other eating some of the items we buy. We are also in a kind of cycle where we take turns buying food, groceries, cleaning products, and we never really have had to ask the other to replenish anything.
However, in February of this year he got a new girlfriend who started staying over a few nights a week which was perfectly fine and she seemed cool. But since April she has been staying here every single day, and every single night. I am still paying 50% of the rent and utilities and groceries. We only have one bathroom and she is in there anywhere from 1-3 hours per day. She also uses our food like the bread I buy, meats, vegetables, snacks and it all disappears a lot faster. It has been annoying me but I’ve been letting it slide. I started keeping a lot more of my food and drinks in my room.
But earlier this month I noticed that an entire can of pringles I kept in my room and 2 of my protein bars had disappeared. I know I didn’t eat them so when they went out I also went into their room and found the pringles in their trash can and my protein bars on her night stand on her side of the bed so I know it was her.
But the final straw was on Tuesday of this week when there was some greek yogurt in the fridge. I used maybe 1/4 of it to make a dessert and later that day she extremely overreacted opening the door to my room and started yelling at me to never again eat her greek yogurt and called me a r**ard.
Anyway it’s time months rent and I’m over it and ended up sending him only 1/3rd of the months rent and he asked why it was short and I told him I’m not going to be covering her utilities food etc. He told me that’s not how it works and I have until the 31st to send him the rest of the rent otherwise he’s going to kick me out and made sure to remind me I’m not on the lease.
It would be mad annoying and inconvenient to have to find a new place. So I need to know if I am overreacting?
