AITA for cursing my neighbor out for touching my stuff?
I live in an apartment complex. Basically everyone minds their business including me but one of my neighbors. She is ALWAYS in my business. She’s in others business too but they don’t seem to mind since she’s made friends with them. I don’t want to be friends with her because she’s annoying to me. She acts like the landlord.
If I’m washing in the shared laundry room she’ll open my machine (I caught her one day taking my laundry out because she didn’t approve of what was in it) to see what I’m washing. I washed a rug once and she told me not to put rugs in the machine because it’ll break it. It was a tiny area rug like in a bathroom. Others also do this. I put my shoes outside my door to dry once after they got damp on a rainy day and she moved them! She told me to keep them inside of my apartment. They were not affecting anyone else or obstructing traffic. I know it was her because she’s the only one who nags me all of the time. If I have a package and leave it outside too long (I grab it when I get home from work) she’ll bang on my door multiple times throughout the evening to remind me that I have a package. I get alerts so I’m aware and I get it when I have time. No one has ever stolen a package of mine so I’m not worried about theft.
I have been ignoring her until she began touching my stuff that is not affecting her. I ended up putting a sticky note on her car saying to stop touching my stuff and being an annoying son of a b. She knows exactly who I am (since she has been reading the packages I “left” outside). I never told her my name directly. I don’t even know her name! She comes knocking on my door the next day asking if I left the note. I told her yes. She said that she’s just trying to keep the complex tidy and functional because she doesn’t want our home destroyed. I told her she shouldn’t be checking other people’s laundry anyway and if she wants to wash she needs to wait until the timer on the machine is up.
She said if I keep doing it she’ll tell the landlord. I say that’s fine and to leave me alone. I don’t want her disturbing my evening at home after work by banging on my door. She told me I need to work on my anger because she’s just being a friendly neighbor and trying to keep the complex nice and to help out her neighbors. I told her to leave me alone and to stop touching my stuff if she doesn’t want me to touch her stuff. The landlord is aware of her behavior, they’re just friends so the landlord doesn’t even involve herself in anything between us she’s basically hands off.
