AITA for telling my friend that she is self serving?

I (31M) have been getting to know a (25F) for the past two months and it’s been pretty good so far for the most part. Intense isn’t what I would say it’s been but I believe we understood what we desire with each other and we were working in friendship to build that. Recently there have been instances where her insecurities have shown themselves more and we were working through them. To add some context to why it feels conditional, we recently talked about the fact that she is traveling in a few weeks to meet someone she has never met and has shared with me that nothing is going on between them but he paid for her ticket (as a friend) and she may be staying with him. It was a lot to ask of me. But we talked it through and I chose to lean on love, trust and faith and provide her my support and blessings for her trip. I’m not one who’s very distrusting of people I take their word as is but I also know I deserve the same unconditional love and support others desire and require of me.

I’m by no means an unattractive person and neither is she (other women couldn’t hold a candle to her) so I do get female attention from time to time, but I’m very faithful and I have eyes for only one person once I know how I feel about that person and work intentionally to remind them I only desire them but also remind her that she is the only person I desire and see her as the most beautiful person in the world. I went to the beach yesterday and there was someone on the beach that appeared to have been doing things to get my attention which I found was odd and laughable. Legit left right after as to not give the person any attention. I shared that with my person as a joke regarding what transpired and they shared how negatively it impacted them. Now this is where I’m confused because I get the impact and I was open to talking about it, but she wasn’t.

She shared she doesn’t like hearing stories about women trying to get my attention which for me I’m trying to understand, but could we talk about it? No. Did I want to? Yes. I did not entertain anything I merely shared what was happening. It then turned into me not having respect for her boundaries because I want to be able to share things that happen in my life and my day, even things like that I find to be laughable like that. I understand she is not used to those interactions where men try to do things to get her attention but what does that have to do with me? Can’t help what I attract only what I entertain. We work and engage in two different circles (I’m a HS teacher, a female dominated field, she works with kids no older than 5). What friendship is there or even potential relationship if I’m not able to share those humorous moments with someone I’m getting to know?

It felt very conditional and it feels like the moment I wasn’t able to do what she wanted me to do then the love was no longer present.