My Marriage Story Falls Apart Because of a Shocking Declaration

Ladies, I don’t know what to do anymore. For the past week, I’ve been like a lost soul. All our wedding plans, all those beautiful dreams are now shaking because of one conversation…

My fiancé and I have been engaged for 3 months. Everything was like a dream! We’ve been together for nearly 2 years, never had any major arguments, both families are supportive, and our wedding plans were starting to take shape. I’m 29, he’s 28, and I thought I had found my life partner.

But last weekend, he wanted to have a “serious talk” with me. You know how your heart races when your partner says that, right? You never know what’s coming. Sitting next to each other on the sofa, he started the conversation, and I couldn’t believe my ears.

“I’ve read a lot about married couples. Many couples have problems because wives lose interest in intimacy, only having sex once a week or sometimes not touching each other for months,” he began.

Before I could understand what he was getting at, his next sentence hit me like lightning: “I will never accept that fate for myself. If you neglect me sexually, I will find someone else. I want you to understand that I won’t become that pathetic man who has to take care of himself in the garage like a loser for the rest of his life.”

Tears started streaming down my face. He quickly hugged me, saying that if I got sick and couldn’t be intimate, he wouldn’t cheat. But if it was just because I no longer had desire, he couldn’t accept that.

I was so stunned that I had to leave his house immediately. For the past three days, I haven’t been able to sleep or eat. I called my mom, thinking that an experienced woman would take my side. But no, my mother said:

“Honey, men just talk like that! Once you’re married, busy with children and housework, he won’t have time to cheat. Don’t rush to ruin a good relationship.”

I turned to my friends, and many advised: “All men are the same, if they’re not satisfied at home, they’ll eventually cheat. Leave this one and find another, it’ll end up the same anyway.”

I feel like I’ve fallen into a deep pit. Some friends support me, but most, especially my mom, adore him too much. She thinks I’m about to lose the opportunity of a lifetime if I call off the engagement.

What confuses me even more is his attitude over the past few days. He’s not angry, not pressuring me. He texts me every day, saying he understands I might feel unsafe after what he said. He tells me to make my own decision and not care about pressure from my mom or anyone else because this is my life.

I have to admit, apart from this issue, he has never made me doubt or disappointed me. That’s why I agreed to marry him. I understand that sex is very important, but are all men really willing to risk their marriage for it?

What should I do, ladies? Continue with the wedding or stop? Is this a scary sign about our future, or just honesty that I should appreciate? Has anyone been through a similar situation?